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WHAT ARE YOUR FANTASIES? TALKING FETISHES WITH YOUR PARTNER

So you've been seeing each other for a while and things are getting hot. You're ready to take it to the next level but there's one little thing you haven't mentioned yet - you're into some pretty kinky stuff. Fantasies you've never dared share with another living soul. How on earth do you have that conversation without sending your sexual partner sprinting for the hills, never to return?

Relax, it's not as scary as you think. Everyone has their secret turn-ons, you're just ready to stop keeping yours hush-hush. The key is approaching the topic with confidence, honesty and humour. Your partner may surprise you and be keen to try out some of your fantasies. Or they may not, in which case you negotiate, compromise and set some boundaries. The most important thing is that you're both on the same page in terms of what you want from your sex life.

So take a deep breath and dive right in. Keep things light and casual, speak openly about your desires, set the right mood. Your kinks may be unconventional but you're certainly not alone in having them. Give your partner a chance - they may just want to fulfil your every fantasy. And if not, at least you gave it a shot. No more living in the shadows, it's time to come out and play.

Having an Open and Honest Conversation About Sexual Fantasies

Having an open and honest conversation about sexual fantasies with a sexual partner can do wonders for your sex life and intimacy. But where to begin?

First, make sure you're both in the right mindset. Pour some wine, get cosy on the couch, and promise not to judge each other for what's shared. What's said in the fantasy convo stays in the fantasy convo.

Don't be shy, dive right in! Share a few of your milder fantasies to get the ball rolling, e.g. role playing, watching porn together or trying out a new sex toy. Gauge your partner's reaction to determine how adventurous you can get with the specifics. If they seem keen to explore further, describe one of your racier fantasies in a lighthearted, playful way. But go slowly - you don't want to scare them off!

Make it clear that just because you have a particular fantasy, it doesn't mean you need to act on it. Reassure your partner that they are enough, and you value your intimate moments together as they are. Communication and consent are key.

Discussing fantasies can enhance desire and passion. But if at any point either of you feel uncomfortable, call it off without blame or judgement. Your relationship and your partner's wellbeing should be the priority.

With open communication and mutual understanding, sharing your secret fantasies can lead to an exciting new chapter in your relationship. But go at your own pace and make sure the lines of consent are clearly drawn. Fulfilling each other's fantasies is a thrill, as long as you do it respectfully and safely.

Discussing Boundaries and Establishing Consent Around Fetishes

So, you and your partner want to explore some kinkier territory in the bedroom. Fantastic! But before you break out the whips and paddles, you need to have an honest conversation about boundaries and consent.

Discuss Desires and Limits

Talk about specific acts you're both curious to try. Be open-minded and listen without judgement. And communicate clearly what's off the table - no one should feel obligated to do anything they're uncomfortable with.

Safe Words are a Must

Establish a safe word or gesture you can use if play gets too intense. Something easy to remember in the heat of the moment, like 'red light'. When a safe word is used, all activity stops immediately. No questions asked.

Aftercare is Important

Some intense BDSM play can bring up strong emotions. Make sure to comfort each other with hugs, massages and words of affirmation afterwards. Stay hydrated and wrap up in a cosy blanket. Emotional and physical aftercare help ensure a positive experience for all parties involved.

Review and Revise

Fantasies can evolve over time. Continue checking in with your partner to make sure everyone's needs are being met. Be willing to compromise when desires don't fully align. Clear communication and consent should be an ongoing process, not a one-time conversation.

Exploring fetishes with your partner can be an exciting adventure. But by putting safety, trust and consent first, you'll build intimacy through these shared experiences. Now go forth, you kinky devils, and make each other's wildest dreams come true!

Exploring and Trying Out New Sexual Fantasies Together

So you've shared your deepest, darkest fantasies with your partner, now what? Time to explore making those fantasies a reality, if you're both comfortable. But take it slow - this isn't a race to the finish line.

Start with the tamest fantasy and work your way up.

Begin with something minor like roleplaying or watching adult films together to ease into things. Save the more extreme stuff for down the road once you've built up your confidence and comfort levels. There's no need to go full 50 Shades of Grey right off the bat.

Set ground rules and a safeword in case anyone feels uncomfortable.

Discuss boundaries, limits and a code word to stop immediately if needed. Consent and comfort should be the top priorities here, not fulfilling a fantasy. Make sure any activities you engage in together are safe, sane and consensual.

Laugh and have fun with it!

Exploring fantasies with your partner should be an enjoyable experience for you both. Giggle at the awkwardness, don't take things too seriously. Laughter can help relieve anxiety and bring you closer together. Keep things playful - you can always come back to the fantasy another time if it doesn't go as planned.

The most important things are going slowly, checking in regularly, respecting limits and remembering why you're exploring these fantasies together in the first place - to connect intimately and have a good time. Throw out any preconceived notions of what you “should” be doing. Just do what feels good for the two of you. With open communication, patience and a sense of adventure, you'll be acting out your wildest fantasies together in no time.

Are you ready to start fetish-talking?

So there you have it, folks. Now you know how to open up this steamy line of communication with your partner without melting into a puddle of embarrassment. But remember, just because you've shared your fantasies doesn't mean you have to act them out right away. Take things slow, start with some role play or visual props if needed, get comfortable and have fun with it. Your fantasies are personal to you, so don't feel pressured into anything you're not ready for. At the end of the day, a healthy sex life is about creativity, adventure and mutual pleasure with someone you trust. So go on, unleash your inner minx - when you're good and ready. The rest will flow as naturally as the conversation that got you here. You've earned it!

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